A tree cannot make a forest, they say. The journey of life can't be walked successfully by going solo.
We all need a community of people to succeed. Every successful individual knows that his or her achievements solely depend on a community of persons working together.
Then why do we incessantly draw back from entering into agreement with other people?
This undoubtedly makes it paramount for us to identify those limiting factors that keeps us from walking in agreement with others.
Let's trek through the lines of this article as we unpack together a number of dark matters that inhibit unity, agreement in relationships' and connections.
1) JEALOUSY: This is like an arrow thrust into one's bowels. Jealousy brings sudden death to a flourishing relationship.
The jealous friend keeps tabs of the achievements of the other friend.
They stick around just to see how much love and affection their friend is being showered when down health wise, and not to provide a shoulder to cry on or words of encouragement.
Jealousy makes a friend laugh with the other friend and at the next moment gossip about the friend.
A jealous friend will never reach an agreement without having an ulterior motive.
He or she is like a time bomb, ready to explode at the slightest opportunity.
2) DISHONOR: It does nothing but to uncover a relationship's nakedness.
Nowadays, it manifests in those who betray confidential information about someone who trusts them heart and soul.
Dishonor is like a breach of agreement between two parties.
To walk in agreement with others, you should learn to honor a person's personal information. It takes a great deal of trust for someone to reveal his heart to another person.
3) PRIDE: The spirit of pride can never make one come into any form of agreement with others.
It makes the person pompous, feeling too high or big to relate with others.
Forgetting that it takes the joint effort of the head and ' other parts of the body' to make the body function properly.
4) BITTERNESS: A relationship encapsulated in bitterness is like a seed surrounded by thorns, it chokes the seed thereby draining any chance of growth.
Bitterness destroys whatever chance available when it comes to doing life together.
This is purely an evidence of an unforgiving spirit. The taproot of bitterness grows into a tree filled with fruits of offense and leaves of resentment.
5) PARANOIA: Some people have this wrong believe that other people are trying to hurt them. They become too suspicious of other people when there is no clear evidence or reason for this.
This attitude leads to loneliness and extreme depression. Several people, leaders in particular go head over heels because the position or place of power has become more important to them than the task.
True leaders welcome the next generation and are not disturbed by their skills or talents. But, rather feel happy to become continuously unnecessary.
If you are insecure and you have a title, you are highly dangerous because you'll always want to protect and defend yourself.
With this attitude, it's certain that no agreement can be reached. It creates a shield wall that no form of agreement can penetrate.
Embrace others success. Insecurity births paranoia. Paranoia leads to destruction.
6) CONTROL SPIRIT: It manipulates and breaks quality friendship because a party tries to take total control of every decision the other party makes.
Friendship is like a coin having two sides. Each side should have a say. It isn't meant to be parasitic or suffocating.
Control is acceptance based on one party's terms and conditions.
Several people never work in agreement because of their codependent spirit.
A codependent spirit is a spirit whereby side A is trying all what he can to make things work, always wanting to satisfy side B, but side B never put in much effort and isn't easily won.
This undoubtedly leads to frustration, bitterness, exhaustion and resentment.
Break away from that friend who always expects you to be there for her but hasn't even for once done the same for you.
7) MANIPULATION: We all have that friend who will go to any length, to maneuver, to get what we have.
They become phony, going into agreement or a relationship just for personal interest.
With their manipulative mindset, they befriend you so that they can use it to gain some power or get close to someone in power.
Having said it all, in order to walk in agreement with others, you have to face pride with humility, combat bitterness with love, conquer paranoia with a renewed mind and become a better you.